Warning! Reading body language is like listening to someone. Listed here are the possible meanings of many different body language signs. To avoid getting it wrong, please start with the short section “How Can You Read What People Think?” at the bottom of this page.
The Eyes (Part I)
Called the “window of the soul” for a reason, the eyes don’t reveal everything but they are very expressive!
The way a person looks at someone reveals a lot and the intensity and direction of their stare can reflect a person’s thoughts.
Let’s look at different scenarios:
- Glancing sideways
–> could show romantic interest, flirting in a subtle way
- Glancing for a prolonged period of time, intermittently but repetitively
–> sexual attraction, lust if in the distance
–> interest in the conversation if face to face while one of you is talking
- Staring hard without interruption at all
–> invasive and threatening (usually accompanied by small pupils)
- Gazing up and down
–> appraisal of sexual attraction – this is true for both men and women, though women are usually more discreet!
- Avoiding gaze
–> could be lying, or feeling guilty or uncomfortable about the subject discussed. If they are looking away after a long gaze, it could just mean they are “taking a rest”, or distancing themselves from the subject.
- Gazing regularly
–> positive, inviting attitude – open to communicate with you
The easiest way to maintain eye contact naturally is to look at the person’s whole face above the tip of their nose – see the picture below. Look at the bridge of their nose, cheek bones, forehead, hair.
*** How Can You Read What People Think? ***
A single word, by itself, has many possible meanings. In the dictionary, you’ll find several likely meanings for each word.
To know the correct meaning, you simply look at:
- other words in the same sentence and
- the context of the sentence.
Reading body language is as simple. A body language signal by itself can mean many things.
To know which meaning is correct, you need to look at:
- other signals that could have the same meaning (at least 2 or 3) and
- the context of the situation (environment and conversation).
This is the golden rule of reading body language.