Body Language: The Arms and Legs

body-language-warning1Reading body language is like listening to someone talking.  The body language signs you observe can have several different meanings – or none at all.  (Just like the words people say.)  Keep reading to discover more.

The Arms

– By the side and away from the body

–> could feel confident, strong

– Closed, crossed

–> could feel uninviting

–> could feel protective

– Touching someone’s arm

–> could indicate sympathy

–> could be a subtle invitation to trust or intimacy

Note:  Just as brushing someone’s hand (see Hands), research suggests that touching someone’s arm can make them more likely to trust you and like you.

The Legs

– Swagger (men), or discreet swishing hip walk (women)

–> could feel seductive, or indicate subtle flirting

– Crossed over the knee or at the ankle

–> could feel relaxed, but not completely at ease

Ankle crossing over the knee (mainly men)

–> could indicate confidence, arrogance or assertiveness

– Leg twine (women)


–> could indicate physical attraction

– Uncrossed legs, slightly open

–> may be inviting body language, open to communication

– Touching their thigh

–> usually unconsciously, could be a sign of attraction

(of course this does not apply if the person is walking or dancing)

– Hands in front of groin or chest area

–> closed pose, could feel protective, defensive, not at ease


The Feet

In a nutshell, our feet tend to point in the direction our mind wants to go.

– Jiggling or Tapping

–> could be nervous gesture or bored (this is not necessarily a sign of irritation as you might sometimes hear)

– Turned in your direction

–> could be interested in you

–> could be interested in what you are saying

– Turned towards the door

–> could indicate a lack of interest, impatient to get out (avoid this position when trying to make a good impression!)


Want To Know For Sure?

The Golden Rule of Reading Body Language:

Look for other signals with the same possible meaning – in different areas of their body or communication.


Because a body language signal by itself can mean many things.

To know which meaning is correct, you need to look at:

– Clusters of signs:  Other signals that could have the same meaning (at least 2 or 3)

– Context:  The context of the situation such as the environment, person’s habits, and topic of conversation.

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