Reading body language is like listening to someone talking. The body language signs you observe can have several different meanings – or none at all. (Just like the words people say.) Keep reading to discover more.
– By the side and away from the body
–> could feel confident, strong
– Closed, crossed
–> could feel uninviting
–> could feel protective
– Touching someone’s arm
–> could indicate sympathy
–> could be a subtle invitation to trust or intimacy
Note: Just as brushing someone’s hand (see Hands), research suggests that touching someone’s arm can make them more likely to trust you and like you.
– Swagger (men), or discreet swishing hip walk (women)
–> could feel seductive, or indicate subtle flirting
– Crossed over the knee or at the ankle
–> could feel relaxed, but not completely at ease
Ankle crossing over the knee (mainly men)
–> could indicate confidence, arrogance or assertiveness
– Leg twine (women)
–> could indicate physical attraction
– Uncrossed legs, slightly open
–> may be inviting body language, open to communication
– Touching their thigh
–> usually unconsciously, could be a sign of attraction
(of course this does not apply if the person is walking or dancing)
– Hands in front of groin or chest area
–> closed pose, could feel protective, defensive, not at ease
In a nutshell, our feet tend to point in the direction our mind wants to go.
– Jiggling or Tapping
–> could be nervous gesture or bored (this is not necessarily a sign of irritation as you might sometimes hear)
– Turned in your direction
–> could be interested in you
–> could be interested in what you are saying
– Turned towards the door
–> could indicate a lack of interest, impatient to get out (avoid this position when trying to make a good impression!)
Want To Know For Sure?
The Golden Rule of Reading Body Language:
Look for other signals with the same possible meaning – in different areas of their body or communication.
Because a body language signal by itself can mean many things.
To know which meaning is correct, you need to look at:
– Clusters of signs: Other signals that could have the same meaning (at least 2 or 3)
– Context: The context of the situation such as the environment, person’s habits, and topic of conversation.
These are 2 of the “5C Method” I recommend. Join us to discover more: